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Once Bitten, Twice Shy

I was recently accused of maliciously and deliberately setting out to inflict emotional pain on someone already in crisis. It was further insinuated that this is something I do routinely for the sole purpose of entertaining myself, as if I derive some sort of twisted pleasure from watching other people suffer.

I take particular issue with this accusation because I most certainly am not the kind of person who would even wish harm on someone, much less set out to cause that harm.

I don’t even wish suffering on those who have hurt me most in my life. At times I even hurt for them, knowing that they will never experience, much less enjoy, some of life’s simplest pleasures, or understand the deeper meaning of “tea for two”.

Because these accusations run so completely contrary to who I am as a person, I cannot bring myself to let them go unchallenged. Writing also gives it a sort of physical form, making it easier to process and providing a place to “put” it all. Perhaps other writers can relate.

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Dear So-called Friend

To the person who said this:

I have always kept my posts light. Not consciously, more because this blog is for me, even if others do read it. I want to inspire myself. I know about the hard stuff so I tend to keep it to a level I am willing others to have knowledge of. […]

[… I am] not really good at taking advice. Mostly I listen politely then do whatever the hell I decide anyway. I have only a very few close people I let knee me in the back until I listen, so please don’t get offended with I do not take your well ment advice to heart. I only let my whole self show with a few people and if you know only a portion of it you generally will not know me well enough to give me the advice I need anyway, since it takes someone adept at seeing me to accurately access my behavior and approach this wolf in a way that doesn’t result in a baring of teeth.

A few things:

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Poisoning The Well With NPD

From the rumor mill:

Many of us have commented from time to time that Obama may not just suffer from an egregious lack of humility…he may indeed suffer from a full-blown case of “narcissistic personality disorder” as defined by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM).

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I know more than a little bit about Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). I will not discuss the details because they are far too personal, but I will tell you this:

It is impossible to know if Barack Obama, or anyone for that matter, meets the criteria for NPD without spending a considerable amount of time with the person. Many of the characteristics of this disorder are only revealed in patterns of behavior that can only be detected over time, and which true narcissists are skilled at concealing in public. So even if Obama is a narcissist, we would not know it based on what we’ve observed through the media.

These kinds of assertions are irresponsible and serve only to poison the well; a tactic that is only necessary in the absence of legitimate arguments against Obama’s suitability for the Presidency.

People with NPD inflict untold emotional, psychological and even physical damage on their victims. Carelessly tossing around the term “narcissistic personality disorder” undermines and trivializes the abuse and absolute terror that narcissists often inflict on their families and anyone else unfortunate enough to cross their paths.

Anyone who employs such a hideous tactic for the sole purpose of promoting a political agenda has no credibility, in my opinion, and I would urge anyone who has been listening to the source of such propaganda to immediately begin searching elsewhere for information on which to base your November vote.


What About Bob?

Bob Wiley is the extremely neurotic, almost paralyzed multi-phobic character portrayed by Bill Murray in the film, What About Bob. I’m not talking about him, although the subject of this post, Student Doctor Bob, appears to be similarly irrational.

Bob Wiley worries that his bladder will explode if he’s in public and can’t find a restroom. Student Doctor Bob worries that American women would be limited to one Pap smear every twelve years under a national health care system.

Bob Wiley believes that faking an illness or disorder makes him immune to it; Student Doctor Bob believes that misrepresenting the proposed system of American national health care makes a valid argument against it.

And so it goes.

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