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Happy Birthday Michael

Dearest Michael,

You are a wonderful husband and father. You are my confidant and my partner; my lover and my best friend. I am a very lucky woman to have someone as wonderful as you to spend the rest of my life with.

Happy birthday, Michael. I love you with all that I have and all I am.

Always,
Your Lottie

Lucky
Jason Mraz

Do you hear me
Talking to you
Across the water across the deep blue ocean
Under the open sky oh my, baby I’m trying

Boy I hear you in my dreams
I hear your whisper across the sea
I keep you with me in my heart
You make it easier when life gets hard

I’m lucky I’m in love with my best friend
Lucky to have been where I have been
Lucky to be coming home again

They don’t know how long it takes
Waiting for a love like this
Every time we say goodbye
I wish we had one more kiss
I wait for you I promise you, I will

I’m lucky I’m in love with my best friend
Lucky to have been where I have been
Lucky to be coming home again
I’m lucky we’re in love in every way
Lucky to have stayed where we have stayed
Lucky to be coming home someday

And so I’m sailing through the sea
To an island where we’ll meet
You’ll hear the music, feel the air
I put a flower in your hair
And though the breeze is through trees
Move so pretty you’re all I see
As the world keep spinning round
You hold me right here right now

I’m lucky I’m in love with my best friend
Lucky to have been where I have been
Lucky to be coming home again
I’m lucky we’re in love every way
Lucky to have stayed where we have stayed
Lucky to be coming home someday


Getting To Know You – Part IV

In May of last year, I started writing a series entitled Getting To Know You. The purpose of the series was to address some of the questions, concerns and misconceptions about online and long distance relationships. I became sidetracked and involved in other things, and never got around to finishing the series. Although it’s been nearly a year, a recent inquiry has inspired me to write another segment.

I have been in a long distance relationship for more than eight years — the relationship was initiated online, and my husband and I recently celebrated our first wedding anniversary. I am writing from my own experience and perspective. My goal is to help shed new light on the subject and work towards removing the stigma attached to these kinds of relationships.

Each part of the series address a different question or topic. In Part I, I addressed the question, “How can you fall in love with someone you don’t even know?” and explained my thoughts on what it is to truly know someone; in Part II, I discussed questions regarding liars and psychos on the internet; Part III addresses what to do if it turns out that the person you fell in love with online has bad breath or body odor, or if you’re not sexually compatible. I know these things may sound funny or superficial at first, but I believe they are legitimate concerns that deserve genuine responses.

Now on with the show! The next question I had wanted to deal with is:

Aren’t you worried he or she will cheat on you? Isn’t it easier to cheat when you’re in an online or long distance relationship?

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For Mike With All My Love

Mike is in the shower right now. We’ll be leaving for the airport in about an hour. Our time together flew by even faster than I thought it would. He won’t see this until after he’s back in England, but hopefully it will be something nice for him to return to.

I love you, Michael! Next time it’s for keeps. Deal?


(Just Like) Starting Over

Mike will be here tomorrow night. We’re going to have one more visit before kicking the immigration process into high gear. He won’t be able to visit while his visa is being processed, and while that could take as little as three months, it can take up to eighteen months. He can only stay for ten days this time and we do plan to make the most of it.

I can hardly wait to see him. I’m having trouble sitting still and I know I won’t sleep worth a crap tonight. I’m like a kid on Christmas Eve. But I’ll still have to work tomorrow!

The time is going to fly while Mike’s here, though. This will be our shortest visit yet. The thought of seeing him off at the airport again so soon makes me sad. We’ve been through it many times and it never gets any easier. We’re really quite a spectacle, the three of us.

When I’m in this kind of mood, listening to music helps sooth me. I especially like listening to The Beatles and John Lennon’s solo music. I came across this one a while ago and it really sort of hit the spot. It’s especially for Mike, although I don’t know when he’ll see it. Hopefully, he’ll be able to before he hits the road. The song and the video will tell him exactly where my heart is right now and where it will stay while he’s heading my way. It’s also one of my favorites by John Lennon and I hope you’ll enjoy it too.

Interesting side note: Mike and I were married on March 20th and so were John and Yoko.

Posted by Lottie — Copyright © 2008 Rambling On


For Michael: We’ve Only Just Begun

Six months ago today, I married my very best friend and love of my life.

Mike and I have been in a long distance relationship for over seven years. We are deeply in love and committed to hanging on for as long as it takes to finally be together for good. Now that we are married, we’re a lot closer to that than we’ve ever been. The immigration process can be long and tedious, but considering everything we’ve already been through together, it’s a relatively minor bump in the road.

I love you, Michael, with all that I am and all that I have. I look forward to being with you again, and next time I won’t have to let you go after a few short weeks. We already have a beautiful, strong marriage that can withstand absolutely anything. And we’ve only just begun!

In celebration of our first six months as husband and wife, I dedicate this song to you, my Love:

We’ve only just begun to live
White lace and promises
A kiss for luck and we’re on our way
We’ve only just begun

Before the rising sun, we fly
So many roads to choose
We start out walking and learn to run
Yes, we’ve just begun

Sharing horizons that are new to us
Watching the signs along the way
Talking it over just the two of us
Working together day to day,

Together… Together…

And when the evening comes we smile
So much of life ahead
We’ll find a place where there’s room to grow
And yes, we’ve just begun


Getting To Know You – Part III

Welcome to Part III of Getting To Know You, a series dedicated to discussing some of the questions and concerns regarding online dating and long distance relationships. I have been in a long distance relationship for over seven years, and recently married my long distance Love. I am writing from my own personal perspective, and hope it will benefit those who are following along.

Despite the fact that online and long distance relationships are becoming more and more common, there is still considerable controversy surrounding the topic. My goal is to help promote a more balanced and positive view of online and long distance relationships by addressing some of the questions and concerns that I encounter most frequently.

In Part I, I addressed the question, “How can you fall in love with someone you don’t even know?” and explained my thoughts on what it is to truly know someone. In Part II, I discussed questions regarding liars and psychos on the internet. Now I would like to talk about a couple of things that may sound funny or superficial at first, but are legitimate concerns that deserve a genuine response:

What if the person you’ve fallen in love with online has bad breath or body odor problems?

What if it turns out that you’re not sexually compatible?

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Getting To Know You – Part II

Welcome to Part II of Getting To Know You, a series in which I will address some of the questions and concerns people have regarding online and long distance relationships. My purpose in taking on this project is to share a different perspective on this slightly controversial topic. If possible, I would like to help remove the stigma attached to these kinds of relationships.

I am a firm believer that consenting adults should be able to engage in any kind of relationship that makes them happy. I also understand the skepticism regarding online and long distance relationships, but having been in a committed and successful long distance relationship for seven years which has resulted in a recent marriage, I hope I can shed new light on a few things.

In Part I of this series, I discussed what I feel it means to truly know another person. It was in response to the question, “How can you fall in love with someone you don’t even know?” While it directly inspired the title of that particular post, I believe the title suits the series just as well – it is about getting to know a different side of the issue, as well as the people involved.

I would like to address a couple more questions I have encountered regularly over the years. I believe they can be answered in the same or a similar way, so I will tackle them together:

How do you know the person you’ve met online isn’t lying to you? How do you know he isn’t a psycho?

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