I just watched a movie trailer at Feministe for a film called A Father’s Rights. More disturbing than the video were the comments under it. These people seem so blinded by hatred of everything male that they seem to think there’s a misogynist behind every bush.
This appears to be a story about a man fighting to be in his daughter’s life and wanting to protect her from what seems to be an abusive mother. Only he can’t – he has no legal rights to the child because he wasn’t married to her mother when the child was born. Despite the adamant denial that this could ever happen, I know for a fact that it can and does. These kinds of cases are not all the same across the board. Insisting that one’s own experience represents every other case is not only ignorant, it’s also rather immature.
I would like to take a quick detour, just to mention for the benefit of those currently studying law, that I think they will find, as they grow up in their careers, that what they have learned in the classroom about how the legal system is supposed to work isn’t always how it actually does work. It’s more than a little irritating to have some arrogant law student telling people that their experiences aren’t real just because they don’t line up with what the textbooks and law journals have to say on the subject. I’m afraid someone is in for a very rude awakening.
Now, back to the topic at hand:
I was appalled by the angry comments about how the woman is portrayed in this film; not to mention the denial that this kind of thing ever happens. It’s as if they refuse to believe that it’s possible for a woman to behave that way. They seem completely unwilling to accept the fact that there really are hysterical, abusive women and that some children would actually be better off living with their fathers.
I’m getting very tired of the whole women can do no wrong (and even if she does it’s some man’s fault) and all men are evil bullshit that seems to permeate feminist circles; the comments in this thread serve as a perfect example of this. This kind of thing is a huge part of why I don’t call myself a feminist anymore: I don’t want to be associated with a group of people who behave and (don’t) think like this.
Yes, according to the feminists in this comments section, the film is part of an evil male conspiracy to paint all women with the same hysterical brush. It couldn’t possibly be about anything that doesn’t have their own fucking names in it! Of course not. It’s all about them. Everything is about them.
Something I found most interesting and likewise disturbing is the fact that, at the time of this writing, not a single person has commented on the clip showing the baby – who had been in the sole custody of her mother – with bruises and what appeared to be fingernail marks across her face. But it’s probably just another part of the conspiracy to portray all women as psychotic bitches. Because women never abuse children, and no man would or could ever be genuinely interested in the safety and well-being of his child.
It’s all so very disturbing and Orwellian, this black and white woman good, man bad mindset. These women seem to be mirror images of what they despise. Misandry is equally as loathsome as misogyny to me.
Here’s the trailer they’re all so worked up about. Why it’s categorized under “misogyny” is beyond me. Before you watch it, here is what the blog administrator had to say about it:
July 28th, 2008 at 9:10 pm – Edit
A summary for those who don’t understand the trailer:
Bitchez is whores.
Bitchez be stealin your money.
Bitchez be fun to fuck, sometimes.
Bitchez get pregnant on purpose
Don’t trust dem bitchez.
There was a time when I believed this kind of comment was beneath her. Oh well…
P.S. I would have made these points over there, but I’m not keen on having my comments deleted; nor do I relish being attacked by a pack of rabid wolves for daring to speak my own mind instead of being led around by the nose by a bunch of women – as if that were somehow better than being controlled by men. That’s another thing that seems to escape them: their own behavior personifies the stereotype of the irrational female better than Hollywood ever has or could.