I don’t usually critique other blogs here at Rambling On, but I recently came across one that is so simultaneously hilarious and disturbing that I feel I must share. The fact that its author will not allow me to comment there was definitely a deciding factor in my decision to write about it here. As anyone who knows me can testify, I am not one to go quietly.
Before I get to the deleted comment that prompted this post, I would like to address a few things that I probably would have let slide if Jessica Hope Leahy had been honest and open-minded enough to discuss my comment rather than deleting it like a narrow-minded coward.
The title of the blog is Jessica Hope Leahy’s Blog. The following is a quote from her About page:
Apparently the author didn’t experience all the same “side effects” that she expects her readers to.
Jessica is a journalism student who will be graduating soon, and her blog is part of an assignment to that end. I find this disturbing in more ways than one, but I will begin where the author did – with the URL:
Now, I’m not absolutely certain about this, but I’d venture a guess that studying to become a journalist would include, in large part, learning to do research. Although I’ve never had any formal training in the art of research, I was able to find the origin of the phrase “love you long time” with one quick Google search. Actually, I already knew the origin; I just looked it up so I could provide a link here.
Before I get to that, allow me to point out that the subtitle of Jessica’s blog is Dedicated to Life In Love- A Bloggers Guide to Relationship 101. The following is another quote from her About page:
This blog will be dedicated to life in love,a bloggers guide to long term relationships, the ups the downs and all that stuff that falls in between.
Some of you may already be laughing your arses off, having already picked up on why I find this a point of interest, and difficult to reconcile with Jessica’s chosen URL.
The phrase, “me love you long time” is a line from a Dirty Rap (also known as also known as booty rap, porn rap, or sex rap) song entitled Me So Horny, by 2 Live Crew. The title of the album was As Nasty As They Wanna Be.
It gets even better, though:
The chorus of the song was sampled from the Stanley Kubrick film Full Metal Jacket. In the movie, UK actress Papillon Soo Soo, credited as “Da Nang Hooker” speaks the lines:
Hey baby, you got girlfriend Vietnam? Me so horny. Me love you long time.
So Jessica chose the line of a hooker trying to pick up a John (or in this case, Joe) as the URL for her blog which she describes as a guide to long-term relationships.
Is it just me?
The next thing I would like to address is something I usually try to avoid criticizing, but this person has presented herself as someone who will soon graduate college with plans to become a professional journalist. As part of a journalism assignment, Jessica has created a blog from which she dispenses advice, and critiques other people’s relationships. Considering these two points, I think Jessica should be prepared to receive advice and criticism as well. So here goes:
Spell check, girl! Good grief!
Now, I realize that poor spelling does not necessarily indicate low intelligence; that’s not what I’m getting at with this. But as a future journalist, I would suggest learning to use a spell checker. It’s built in to most word processors, as well as your WordPress editor. Perhaps one of your professors could recommend a class?
As to the quality of writing, here is a small sample:
Hi everyone! Well.. what can I really say? I’m the least internet savvy person you will ever encounter so bare with me on this brand new endeavour. This blog is an assignment from an online journalism class I am taking right now, but in all honesty I cant wait to begin! This blog will be dedicated to life in love,a bloggers guide to long term relationships, the ups the downs and all that stuff that falls in between.
I am a 21 year old girl, who enjoys living life, writing, and has high aspirations as far as her future is concerned. I am Almost…ALMOST done with college and all that it has to offer, and am currently a year into the most serious relationship of my life. I am no expert. There was never a degree earned on my behalf in romance 101and Oprah has never asked me on her show to share my stories on this topic (she doesn’t know what’s good for her). However I have been cheated on loved and lied to in the past and I am a firm believer in learning from experience.. and that my fellow internet stalkers, bloggers and of course Professor Mark Berkey-Gerard…I have.
I hope while blogging about this topic, to not only to interest others, but to learn more about myself and my relationship as well. So buckle your seat belts and hold on tight.. this should be interesting!
ATTENTION: As I mentioned in the beginning of this endeavour, I am not technologically savvy. That said again, if your reading my blogs and you have noticed those little boxes or question mark thingers in the writing, your not the only one. I have been sitting here poking my eyeballs out trying to figure out how to get rid of them! So my sincerest apologies, I know its annoying. But the reading is hopefully worth it, so continue please! It will hopefully be fixed by Monday! Thanks- Jess
Is this seriously the writing of a soon-to-be graduate of journalism school? Please tell me where to enroll – I have a free weekend I’d like to use to earn my Ph.D.
Jessica, dear, please find the apostrophe on your keyboard. And you might ask one of your professors to explain the difference between your and you’re, not to mention there, their, and they’re. In fact, while you’re at it, find a dictionary and look up bear and then bare. And by all means, have someone proofread and edit your posts: it’s something every good and responsible journalist does.
Now that I have all the preliminary stuff out in the open, I would like to move on to the deleted comment that prompted this post. The title of the post I commented on is Im A Creepy Neighbor… Call Me Gladys Kravitz (Yes, I know there should be an apostrophe in I’m, but it’s Jessica’s title, so…). Jessica opens with the following line:
Just like the fictional character, Gladys Kravitz, that starred in the comedy, “Bewitched,” I have been a creepy neighbor.
I won’t argue with the last part of that sentence, but I would like to take another small detour, if you’ll bear with me.
First of all, characters don’t star in anything; the actors and actresses who portray them do. Secondly, the actresses who portrayed Gladys Kravitz did not star in Bewitched; on the contrary, Gladys Kravitz was a relatively minor character. The stars of Bewitched were Elizabeth Montgomery, Dick York, Dick Sargent, and Agnes Moorehead.
Bewitched was one of my favorite television programs when I was a little girl. I loved the character of Samantha Stephens, played by the star of the show, Elizabeth Montgomery, so I couldn’t bear to overlook Jessica’s error in that regard. Thank you for indulging me. Now, on with the show:
In this particular post, Jessica discusses how, for about a year, she spied on a couple that lived across the street from her. She says that when the weather was nice enough to leave the windows open, she began to hear the couple fighting. One day, a moving truck came and the man moved out, leaving the woman there alone. While I admire Jessica’s sympathy for the woman, something she said jumped out at me, and I decided to comment. Jessica said:
As I look at her windows still open, and her dog in the backyard, it doesn’t seem fair (for her) that life is going on around her, while her world is probably falling apart.
Or maybe she kicked his butt out, breathed a sigh of relief when he pulled out of the driveway, and is now dancing a jig of glee.
One has to assume an awful lot about people to think that someone’s life will fall apart due to a break up or even divorce. Not all relationships are healthy, and it’s not always a tragedy when people break up. Sometimes it’s the best thing that can possibly happen; sometimes the parties involved are actually happy about it.
If I may be so bold, the worst thing people can do in giving advice to others is to assume they know how others feel. Even if I’ve experienced something which appears from my perspective to be the same as what someone else is going through, that person’s perspective may be totally different.
Eavesdrop all you want, but I doubt you were there 24/7.
One might think that an educated, open-minded person, committed to understanding relationships and helping people work through them, would be willing to discuss this. But Jessica promptly deleted my comment. I suspect because it challenged her thinking and preconceived ideas about life and love, and she simply is not up to the challenge.
Jessica does not appear to be interested in what makes people tick in relationships, but in slapping any old thing on a WordPress blog and getting credit for a course that doesn’t require her to think about a damn thing she writes. This is not the making of a responsible journalist, if you ask me.
Jessica has written several posts that I would like to address as time permits. You might call this the start of a series. Stay tuned!